Frenzy is an emotional state, a feeling of being a little (or a lot) out of control. It is often underpinned by anxiety, sadness, anger, and related emotions.
— Train Your Brain to Focus (www.blogs.hbr.org)
It’s only natural for someone going through a divorce or separation to feel like this at times. When those times come, acknowledge the existence of the negative emotion and they try to find ways throughout your day to balance your negative emotions with positive ones. To do this you can try exercising, meditating, and being mindful of the good and beautiful things around you. Do you have a favorite street? Then walk down it. A favorite scent? Spritz in on. Find ways to laugh. Use your senses to get out of yourself and appreciate the world around you.
And then notice what triggers those frenzy attacks. When you feel one coming on, treat it like you would a headache.
- Acknowledge that it’s there;
- Take a deep breath;
- Balance it with the positive; and
- Let it go.