You know, you hear people talking about how important it is to not only have a vision of what you want, but to also see yourself doing whatever it is you want to do. We think (and others say) that it’s because when you imagine yourself having your vision, it becomes real and you really believe that you can have it, or achieve it, or whatever it is that your vision encompasses.
This is important for you as you go through the period of uncertainty and transition that separation and divorce entail.
And if you have children, it is even more important.
Because who do (or should) children look up to more than their parents? If they see lost parents, what do you think their reality is going to be, both now and in the future when they face setbacks?
If, however, they see their parents moving forward beyond their fear to a positive place, just think how good it will be for them.
So even if you’re having problems finding that positive vision for you, find it for your children. Everyone will benefit.
How has having positive visions helped you cope with change?